What you believe to be a mutually exclusive relationship is now shattered by the news of his infidelity. And since it’s the first heart-breaking moment in your relationship, you did nothing but curl up and cry on your bed. The damage has been done and the sense of betrayal has covered the marriage. Although both of you made place to bring back the old relationship, forgiveness seems elusive this time and you’re confuse and wondering if the damage is irreparable.
When this condition becomes palpable in the relationship, couples may have a hard time fixing the holes and some may withhold any form of physical intimacy. Apparently, it’s never too late to start over again.
1) Ask for forgiveness.
Whether you were the one who cheated on you were cheated on there is something in the relationship that needs to be forgiven. Just the act of asking for forgiveness will put your partner in a mood to dole out forgiveness as long as you ask properly. It also throws them completely off because it’s often not the tactic they expect.
2) Make improvements.
Both parties are at-fault in one way or another. The need to express their feelings must be met if this is something that was seldom achieved. Spend the lifetime getting to know each other and make room for changes that are necessary to the relationship. It doesn’t need to be done somewhere, but start making amends first at home.
3) Forgive him.
True forgiveness is apparent when you genuinely moved on. Cheating is such a terrible crime. The damage it leaves is tremendous, but in order to salvage the relationship one must be ready to humble himself.
4) Have realistic expectations.
This is another important part of the process. Your expectations need to be realistic if you’re going to salvage your relationship from the ashes of adultery. You can’t expect smooth sailing on every leg of the journey. The more realistic your expectations are the better you will be able to handle it when things do not go exactly as hoped or planned.
5) Value everything.
Don’t let the day pass without making a single compliment. Compliment each other. Say thank you whenever you need to. Don’t stop yourself from saying something good. Greeting the day with positivism will automatically pull affirmative and encouraging vibes. You need to be honest, and sincere. The pain of betrayal is still around and any exaggerated or corrupt statement can bring back the pain once more.
Can the damage of cheating be undone? You better believe it. The only thing is you have to get your ex boyfriend back before you can really begin making progress in the relationship repair department.